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Bullying unfortunately is a part of life and the vast majority of us will encounter this unpleasant experience at least once. Since the days that I was in high school things have changed a bit (I know I am an old decrepit woman): cell phones, the internet, and social media doesn”t give the young adults of today a break from bullying, it now follows them home. However, even with the changes in technology there is still hope for overcoming a bullying situation and learning from the experience :
1. Know that no one”s life is more important than yours. You have to value yourself before anything else. So what if some loser thinks that you are not worth it. Why do they get to judge who is valuable and who isn”t? You are worth it and you have to have a sense of selfishness about your life. No one is worth your grades dropping, no one is worth you getting into trouble, and no one on this earth certainly is worth losing you life over.
2. When you are in high school or even college you probably don”t know very much about yourself. You don”t know why you are special, you don”t know all of the talents that you possess, you haven”t even gotten around to figuring out your place in life and why you matter. Try focusing your thoughts on your dreams because now is the time to. When you have a purpose or a mission, you can”t let anyone stand in the way especially some loser that won”t move onto becoming more any way.
3. If the person is harassing you on social media and if you feel that you are not strong enough to ignore them, make a point to remove yourself from the situation. I know it feels like why should you have to leave when you did nothing wrong. But think of it like this, if there is too much negativity in that space for your sanity it would be best if you took a break from it. Surround yourself in positive outlets and people, choose to remove yourself from negative environments.
4. Tell someone. I know it seems like an uncool move or it makes you feel like you are weak, but this is the exact opposite. It is a smart and strong move. You want those that can help you to be aware of the situation.
5. Don”t go looking for fights, provoking them, or starting them, but if someone fights you fight back for the purpose of defending yourself. This is not a message telling you to bash their head end in, it”s saying to defend yourself to get them off of you. Once the person is no longer a threat (i.e. they are on the ground, have backed off etc.) leave them alone. I know most schools have a zero violence policy, but in truth becoming a punching bag makes the bullying worse. So you may get in a little bit of trouble or you may not, but if you have made your parents and your school officials aware the consequences are most likely worth it. It”s not what some would recommend but it”s the truth. Letting someone punch and beat up on you never makes the situation better.
No one likes to feel like they are not worthy or less than, most of us like to feel included and a part of things. Just remember that even if you don”t have a circle of friends now someday you will find people that you click with. Life has a way of giving you periods where things are not so great, but it”s so worth when you experience the goods things in life. It”s hard but be patient this time will pass and take the time to focus on all the good you do have in life even if the good at the moment isn”t all that much. It”s a life lesson that all of us have endured and in some respect it makes us stronger preparing us for overcoming real life challenges.